Your Worth

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Welcome to your Happy Monday message, wishing you peace and time to reflect over the coming week.

When you do reflect on your life and your dreams do you take into account your value, the value that you place on yourself?

Some days ago I had what is now referred to as a “light bulb moment”; it occurred to me that I was following in the footsteps of someone who had been very instrumental in my upbringing. Fortunately, this trait is a positive one. However, it is fundamental to the value that I place on myself, and my expectations.

ACTION POINT

  • Consider how much of yourself you are prepared to give away, at what stage would you set your boundaries?
  • Looking at your actions would you say that you value yourself?
  • How do you show other that you value them?

 

 

Become Financially Free…

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You have the ability to become financially free…

Yet here are two challenges:

  1. When it comes to money, our brains are preset at birth towards poverty and not wealth. But you have never been taught how to replace your ‘poverty setting’ with a ‘wealth setting’.
  2. To make matters worse, you have developed habits and beliefs as you have gone through life which are negative. Some of your automatic behaviours are constructive, of course.

But it’s the ones which are unhelpful that have got in your way.

Those bugs are a bit like computer viruses. They have crept into your Subconscious Mind without you realising. And once there, they have been working in the background and have been destructive.

The good news is that your brain can be reset from a ‘poverty setting’ to a ‘wealth setting’. And the bugs can be removed.

Here’s how you can start doing this right now…                               

  1. Cut out TV, news and other kinds of negative or disempowering media for the next 30 days. This will start to detox your thinking.
  2. Read an empowering book for at least 15 minutes each day. This will start to open your mind to new ideas and richer ways of thinking.
  3. Daily visualisation exercise where you vividly imagine yourself now as the person you intend to become. For example, imagine what your life is like when you’re financially free. This is a powerful way to start reprogramming your subconscious mind to better support you with your goals. Clean up you thinking and you’ll create fertile space for wealthier ideas to grow!

To Your Financial Freedom

Mac Attram

Multi-Award Winning Investor, Mentor, Incubator, Educator & Author

 

3 Ways You Can Get Creative To Spice Up Your Stale Relationship

Ever brain-storm new ideas and concepts for work? Use that same process in your relationships!

Whenever I hear about people who are highly effective and fulfilled in their career but struggling in their personal relationships, I think back to something that happened to me many years ago. I was flying home from a conference in the Midwest. The man who was sitting next to me struck up a conversation. At first it was the typical idle chit-chat you’d expect to have with a stranger on a plane. However, upon learning about my profession as a teacher, speaker and consultant, he began pouring out his life story and personal problems to me.

“I’ve been married thirteen years,” Bob said, “And my wife and I never talk about anything other than the bills, the kids and where we’re going on our next vacation. I’m afraid that once my kids are grown my wife and I will look at each other and see strangers.”

This man was a highly successful executive at a multi-billion dollar company. He had worked his way to the top of his field from a young age. That sort of success didn’t just happen accidentally. It must have taken a great deal of commitment and focus. “You’ve really done well by directing your creativity at work,” I observed. “Did you know that you have the same opportunity with your personal relationships?”

He wasn’t following, so I explained to him that we were born creative not just to be dynamite in our professional lives and in creating material success, but also so we can direct that creativity toward our relationships. Although he jotted down a few notes and seemed intrigued, he seemed deflated by the time the plane touched the ground. Perhaps it was because he considered the effort he’d need to put in. “Our marriage isn’t great, but I’m sure we’re not that different from most people.” We can only hope that he changed his mind and decided that he didn’t need to settle for mediocre in his marriage.

The point is that, like Bob, we are all born with the God-given gift of creativity. What we do with our creativity—indeed, whether or not we even perceive our own creative ability—is another matter. Our creativity can be used to succeed in business, to create art and write beautiful novels, or it can be used to build better relationships. There is no limit to how we can use our creative powers. We don’t need to struggle endlessly or sit idly by while we watch our marriage or relationships deteriorate. We have the power to make our relationships great. Here’s how!

1. Learn To Feel Alive (Again)

But what is a great relationship? A great relationship is one in which both partners feel very alive when they’re together. The sound of our loved one’s voice and the sight of their face fills us with joy. We marvel at our luck in finding each other and being together, even when we’ve been together for decades. We thrill at the good times and appreciate our love and support during tough times. There’s a sense of well-being that spills over onto others—our extended family, our children and our friends.

If we’d like to get back to the place where a great relationship like this is still possible, there is a way to use our creative powers to make this a reality, starting today.

2. Talk To Successful Couples 

We can start creating great relationships by asking a loved one to be candid with us about a pattern in our relationships that may be causing some distance. For example, is there some aspect of technology like a cell phone or television that dilutes our time together? Do we keep finishing their sentences or fighting to gain control of the conversation?

Whatever it is, when we catch ourselves engaging in this distancing behavior, we can take note of it in some way such as writing it down in a notebook. Get ready! It can be surprising how often this pattern appears and causes discord. Notice the ways this behavior effects our lives—not just in our romantic relationship, but in our work and other personal relationships as well.

3. Make Positive Changes

Once we have thoroughly recognized the patterns that are putting distance between us, we can seek to alter or clear these patterns. We can use our creativity to come up with ways to stop ourselves from engaging in the behavior in the first place, or ways we can replace destructive patterns with a behavior that’s much more considerate and mindful.

For example, whenever we’re tempted to check our cell phone at lunch or dinner, we might find something to appreciate about our partner instead. In this way, we’re not only removing the obstacle to our relationship happiness, we’re actually opening up to noticing something that previously we might have taken for granted.

When we’re not happy in our relationship, it may be that we haven’t explored ways of using our creativity to make it better. Remember, we create whatever we focus our attention on. We can create relationships that are fulfilling and life-giving, or we can create confusion, excuses and copies of what we’ve always known. The choice is ours.

Nobody intends to design a mediocre life, or a mediocre relationship, for that matter. A mediocre anything is lived by default, by drifting. Relationships deteriorate because we stop paying attention and we stop being creative. We can choose to alter our patterns in order to consciously and purposefully design a fulfilling, great relationship.

— Mary Morrissey:-  November 4, 2014

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There is only one you

Good morning everyone,

Welcome to your Motivating Monday newsletter. It is a pleasure to be sharing this time with you, time where you stop to take a few moments to be you!

Let’s get serious for a minute, with less than 96 days left in the year have you achieved all that you set out to do in 2016? Have your dreams been fulfilled, or have you exceeded what you thought that you could accomplish and now living your life on purpose?

Remember, there is only one you, one person with your combination of dreams, talents, ideas and goals, so if you do not bring to life in your own unique way…….

 Every single blade of grass,
And every flake of snow
Is just a wee bit different…
There’s no two alike, you know.
 

From something small, like grains of sand,
To each gigantic star
All were made with THIS in mind:
To be just what they are!
 

How foolish then, to imitate
How useless to pretend!
Since each of us come from a MIND
Whose ideas never end.
 

There’ll only be just ONE of ME
To show what I can do
And you should likewise feel very proud,
There’s only ONE of YOU.
 

That is where it all starts
With you, a wonderful
Unlimited human being.
— James T. Moore

 

YOUR EXAMPLE

It is great to be sharing another Wonderful Wednesday with you.

This blog is slightly longer than previous ones as I feel that I need to make a few things clear; if you have been reading my messages for a while you will know that I pose a series of questions but do not always give you the answers.

The reason being that the answers reside in you, in waiting for someone else to tell you what to do you are in effect handing over your freedom to choose to someone else.

Is that really what you want to do?

From a personal perspective, I know that my life changed when I took full responsibility for my actions, good and bad, and accepted that I had made the choices that got me to a particular point.

So, I considered the elements that I did not like and decided what I actually wanted in my life (I stress here that I focussed on what I wanted) and then took steps to make it happen.

This in itself was a major learning curve, and thankfully I had support along the way. Now, even when things do not happen within the timescale that I would want, I know that there is a lesson that I am yet to learn before getting what I want.

 

ACTION

Are your decisions based on?

∴  A goal that you have for yourself
∴  How you see yourself
∴  What you feel someone wants you to do
∴  How you want someone to see you
∴  Not sure

Remember, making decisions to enrich yourself means taking responsibility for ensuring the well-being of not only you, but of others too, as the better you feel from within the more you are able to share with others.

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5 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Mindset in 20 Minutes

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These tried and true tips will help you take on the day with confidence. Susan C. Foster – August 30, 2016

We can do these simple steps every day, quickly and easily, to improve our mindset:

1. Just breathe. (5 minutes)

Studies show that just a few minutes a day of quiet can open our brains and make it available for our most innovative ideas. Sit or stand in a quiet spot, feet on the floor, and hands by your side or on your knees. Now just quiet your mind—picture a place that is your idea of peace, such as a beach or a mountain. Just breathe, consciously and deeply from your belly. If your thoughts start to intrude (the project is due today, a late bill, etc.), just notice, then go back to your picture. You don’t have to be a meditation expert to do this. Five to 10 minutes of quiet, deep breathing during the day can also help us get back on track when stress levels get high, and clear our minds to come up with a better solution or next step to our challenge.

2. Check your thoughts. (5 minutes)

Have you ever gotten up in the morning when the weather is lousy and said, This is going to be a bad day? I have. More times than not, it guaranteed a day that finished the same way. Our thoughts are powerful. They create feelings, which leads to actions and behaviours that determine whether our day goes well. Learning that we can choose our thoughts is one of the most powerful things we can do to take charge of our lives. Taking five minutes to make sure our thoughts are positive starts the day off with the right mindset.

3. Write your grateful list. (3 minutes)

Set the timer and write down five things you are grateful for every day.2 According to research by UC Davis psychologist Robert Emmons, keeping a gratitude journal contributes to a positive life attitude, and makes us feel better, sleep better and even have stronger immune systems. Try for a different list each day, and at the end of the week you will be surprised how this helps your mindset.

4. Set your intention for the day. (5 minutes)

Before you leave in the morning, set an intention of how you want the day to end. How do you want the actions you accomplish today to make you feel at the end of the day? How do you want to feel about your relationships, and what can you do today to move that forward? It doesn’t have to be major. What is one thing you can do that will make you feel better at the end of the day?1

5. Turn off the noise. (2 minutes)

Just for today, find something else to listen to when you begin your day. Do your morning commute without listening to the news (it’s never positive), talking on the phone or checking social media. Listen to your favourite music, a lecture you’ve recorded and have been wanting to get time for, or just observe what’s happening around you. There will be plenty of time to find out what’s happening in the world when you get to your destination. Do this for a week and you will find yourself arriving at work in a calmer, more positive and relaxed mindset. Best of all, you will discover you haven’t missed a thing.

That’s it—just 20 minutes and you are well on your way to a more positive mindset. Practice this for just two weeks. You will see a tremendous difference in your productivity and your attitude.

 

 

 

Feel Good About Yourself

Each day may you have a reason to feel good about yourself…

Fulfilling your hearts desire is the best way to feel good about yourself and your actions. Most other things seem good for a time, and then the novelty wears off. Defining your dream and building on it propels you to places that you may not have known existed, to heights that you didn’t know you could climb.

Are you living your dream, living the life that you LOVE?

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To Give is to Receive

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Good afternoon All,

Welcome to my Thursday Thoughts, the blog site where you focus on you.

I came across the following excerpt, which got me thinking of you:

Living is giving your best self away,
Living helping someone every day;
Living is giving more than you get,
It’s treating an animal like a person, instead of a pet.

It’s helping the disabled across the street,
It’s smiling at the new person at work that you meet;
It’s respect for all nations, color and creeds,
It’s sharing and caring for your neighbor’s needs
One of God’s greatest laws you can live and believe,
Is the more that you give, the more you’ll receive!

Denis Waitley

When you stop to consider the above would you say that you are living?

ACTION POINT

In what area of your life could you give a bit more of yourself, without expecting anything in return?

Think of someone who is always there for you and do something unexpected for them.

Stress is a Choice

I hope that you are feeling fine on this sunny Tuesday.

Just the other day I received an email stating that stress was a choice, naturally this got my attention. When you stop and think about it, you do choose whether you want to be stressed or not, you determine how you react or respond to any given situation. At this point you may be thinking well what if I have lots of challenges in my life, this is causing me stress.

That is true, if you keep trying to resist the situation. However, what if you looked at it from the perspective of the situation occurring in order to take you to another phase in your life, would that not alleviate some of the feeling of stress?

Most successful people state that their greatest success have come from their biggest challenges. Read any of their stories and you will find a similar theme occurring, they encounter a major stumbling block, almost to the point where they are ready to give up and then something great happens.

 

ACTION POINT

  • The next time you find yourself starting to feel stressed, stop and pay attention to your breathing. You will probably find that you are taking short shallow breaths (if you are not in fact holding your breath).
  • Allow yourself to take a least three slow deep breaths (that you feel right down in your stomach), remembering to exhale slowly.
  • Refocus your mind towards the positive outcome that you want to achieve.

You Make A Difference

It is a pleasure to be connecting with you today, sharing a few moments of insight and inspiration.

As is the norm, the past week has seen some high moments and some moments that provided opportunity for growth.

Have you noticed that whenever you arrive at a key decision point in your life that you receive reminders of the difference that you make, how the impact of your uniqueness has left its mark somewhere.

You may not even be aware of the difference that you make, it could be the person to whom you give that fleeting smile each morning as you pass them when taking the train, or the shopkeeper who you greet warmly each time you make a purchase, to these people you are making a difference in their lives. It could be the other way around, maybe you look forward to seeing someone as they make you feel good about yourself.

The point here is that often at the time when you question why you are doing something that the response comes to you in the form of someone giving you feedback.

ACTION POINTS

  • Write down three things that are unique about you
  • How do you utilise your unique points on a day to day basis?
  • Think of a few ways that you can utilise your gifts further to make a difference.

 

Some Tuesday Tips…

Today we think about what it means to reach your zenith, when do you get to that stage of achievement that defines your peak?

I believe that everything has its time, so how fitting that during this first week of the Olympic Games we should be considering reaching our peak; it takes up to four years of focused dedication, training and sacrifice for an athlete to get the opportunity to compete as an Olympian.

Along the way some may have obtained a Personal Best (PB), a National Record (NR) or even a World Record (WR), yet, when they arrive at the Olympic Games the goal is to achieve and Olympic medal, preferably gold.

For you and I it could take a lifetime for us to reach our peak, a lifetime of trying, of growing, of testing, we all have different goals and skill levels.

Each day we make a choice whether to excel or not, with each activity we can either give it our best and know that we gave it all that we were capable of giving, or we can be of the mind to “just get it done”.

My question to you is, how do you know when you have reached your peak, what benchmark have you set?

Have a great week, and look forward to sharing your journey.

 

— Roxanne

 

Who are you allowing yourself to be…

With summer trying it’s hardest to break through consistently are you feeling the same way, things seem to be coming together but there must be an easier way? Sometimes it just takes approaching the situation from a different angle and using your resources wisely.

You were created with a unique set of talents and gifts that when used effectively can bring you great peace and joy. How are you using yours?

Consider the following scenario…

Procrastination and Action line up at the start line, the starter fires and Action is off, Procrastination makes to go and guess what happens……

You guessed it, Action got the job done whilst Procrastination thought about it. Sound familiar?

As Maya Angelou said “One isn’t necessarily born to courage, but one is born with potential.”

I wish to ask you this question “What is Your Original Self?”

Is it:

  • To function in all areas as a whole person
  • To come from a place of authenticity
  • To know and show that you count for something
  • To abandon the limitations others have been imposed upon you
  • To feel free
  • To reconnect with your inner joy
  • To improve your well-being
  • To feel your unique passion
  • To be the person that you were meant to be
  • To enjoy life as you are meant to!!

Enjoy your week ahead.

— Roxanne

 

Women in Leadership event – June 2016

 

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Attended a marvellous event on Friday 24th June at The Grosvenor Hotel in London. It was entitled ‘Women in Leadership – Strategy for Success’.

I met a number of successful, inspiring and progressive women from around the world.

There was also a book signing, my picture is with Dr Yvonne Thompson of 7 Traits of Highly Successful Women on Boards [in the Board Room].

Yvonne is an entrepreneur, business woman, international speaker and best-selling author.

 

A Law of Attraction quotation – I so love this

There are no happier people on this planet than those who decide that they want something, define what they want, get hold of the feeling of it even before it’s manifestation and then joyously watch the unfolding as, piece by piece by piece, it begins to unfold. That’s the feeling of your hands in the clay.

— Abraham

Excerpted from [the Abraham-Hicks workshop, held in] San Francisco, CA – August 18th, 2001.